Empowering Financial Independence Post-Divorce with Anna N’Jie-Konte

As someone who's been through divorce myself, I know firsthand how paralyzing financial fears can be. Even as the primary breadwinner in my marriage, I struggled with anxiety about managing bills solo after my divorce. That's why I was thrilled to have wealth advisor Anna N’Jie-Konte join me to tackle this crucial topic that impacts so many women in our community.

Breaking Free from Old Money Stories

One of the biggest revelations from my conversation with Anna was how much our societal conditioning around money holds us back. Many women grow up hearing messages that "women aren't good with money" or that finances are best left to men. After divorce, these limiting beliefs can keep us stuck in fear and prevent us from taking control of our financial future. The truth is, we are absolutely capable of managing our money successfully - we just need the right tools and mindset.

Starting Fresh: The Practical Steps 

Anna shared some excellent practical advice for women contemplating or going through divorce. I love how she emphasized that this isn't about judgment, but about gathering data so you can make informed decisions. Yes, looking at those credit card statements can feel scary (trust me, I've been there!), but knowledge truly is power.

1. Know Your Income: Identify all your income sources—whether it’s salary, bonuses, stock options, or business revenue. Understanding this helps you see the financial gap you might face post-divorce and plan accordingly.
2. Track Your Expenses: Yes, it can be daunting, but knowing where your money goes is crucial. Anna emphasized that awareness of your spending habits allows you to make informed decisions. Take a look at your last six months of bank statements to get a clear picture.
3. Adjust Your Lifestyle: A significant life change might mean adjusting your lifestyle, and that's okay! Anna shared a story about a client who downsized her living space to align more with her values and financial reality. It’s all about figuring out what you truly need versus what you want.

Creating Your New Financial Vision 

One of my favorite parts of our discussion was reframing divorce as an opportunity to consciously choose what you want your financial life to look like. In my own journey, I went from a 2,000 square foot house to a smaller townhouse - and while it felt like a step backward at first, it was actually exactly what I needed for that season of my life. The key is remembering that these decisions aren't permanent - they're stepping stones on your path forward.

Finding Joy in Financial Freedom 

I had a bit of an epiphany when I realized how much of my spending was driven by emotions. I learned to create new relationships with money that actually brought me joy, instead of impulse buying at Target (my former stress relief!). I started saving for specific things that truly mattered to me - like my beloved blue velvet couch and fancy champagne glasses while avoiding the random store stroll just to find something to feel better in the moment. Anna shared her process called "Wealth with Purpose," which is all about making intentional financial decisions that align with our values and goals. How empowering is that?

Moving Forward with Support 

One major takeaway from our convo was the importance of having a solid support system. While it's empowering to take control of your finances, you don't have to figure it all out alone. Whether it's working with a financial advisor, meeting with a planner annually, or joining workshops like Anna's upcoming session, there are resources available to support you. The key is taking that first step, even if it feels scary.

Upcoming Workshop

Exciting news! Anna is hosting a fantastic financial workshop on January 28th, and you’re all invited! This workshop will provide actionable steps and deeper insights into managing your finances pre- and post-divorce. It’s free, and if you can’t catch it live, no worries—the replay will be available. Enroll with the link below. 

Remember, wherever you are in your financial journey post-divorce - whether you're starting from scratch or reorganizing substantial assets - you have the power to create a new relationship with money that serves you. Focus on your progress, celebrate the small wins (like paying off those credit cards!), and keep moving forward. Your financial freedom is waiting on the other side of those money fears.

Stay strong and keep shining, Erica

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Anna N'Jie-Konte

Anna N'Jie-Konte, CFP®, is a highly accomplished wealth advisor, entrepreneur, public speaker, and mother dedicated to empowering women—particularly women of color—to achieve financial alignment and abundance. Named one of the country's top influential financial advisors and featured in outlets like CNBC, The New York Times, and Telemundo, Anna brings a unique perspective shaped by her upbringing in a family rich in compassion and resilience but lacking financial literacy. Her decade of experience at major wealth management firms fueled her passion to break barriers as a first-generation American and Puerto Rican wealth advisor. As the founder of Poder Wealth Advisors and Financial Powerhouse: The Club, Anna uses her expertise to help women grow, enjoy, and protect their wealth, creating purposeful lives and positive change. Through her Instagram and podcast, Anna shares actionable insights to inspire financial clarity and empowerment.

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