Stories from the Other Side with Ella from “On Air with Ella”

Hi friends, it’s Erica! 

In the latest episode of *The Crazy Ex-Wives Club* I welcomes Ella, the dynamic voice behind the wellness and mindset podcast *On Air with Ella.* Together, we navigate the tumultuous waters of divorce, sharing their personal experiences, pearls of wisdom, and profound insights into healing and thriving after a marriage ends.

Here are three key takeaways from our conversation:

A Journey of Growth and Self-Discovery - Both myself and Ella open up about our unique challenges and the growth that followed our divorces. I share my own journey, and emphasize the importance of reflecting on whether a current issue holds significance in the future.

Release and Acceptance- Throughout the episode Ella discusses the gap between maintaining boundaries and succumbing to the ego's demands. She emphasizes releasing all expectations, especially when dealing with extended family and exes. I myself resonate with this approach, due to my struggle with controlling my ex-partner's behavior, particularly around co-parenting. Through our journey, I realized the importance of focusing on my son’s emotional well-being rather than micromanaging my ex's actions. This shift in perspective allowed me to navigate co-parenting more effectively and with less stress.

The CIA Model: A Path to Empowerment-  The introduction of the CIA model - Control, Influence, Accept, and Adapt. Ella highlights this model as a game-changer, not just in dealing with divorce but in all aspects of life. It encourages individuals to focus on what they can control, influence what they can, and gracefully accept and adapt to the rest. This model provides a roadmap to empowered living, helping to navigate the complexities of divorce and beyond.

Divorce, with all its pain and challenges, is also an opportunity for self-discovery and authentic living. They encourage breaking free from societal expectations and finding strength in vulnerability and support networks. 

Xoxo, erica

Learn more about Ella: On Air With Ella is for women over 35 who want to feel better, live better - and have some fun along the way. Ella loves sharing simple strategies and tips for living a bit better every day – she believes in wellness without obsession. In addition to hosting On Air with Ella (since 2015), Ella is Managing Partner of The Trivista Group, a communications consulting firm that she co-founded in 2003. She is a professional speaker, competitive age-group triathlete, and co-founder of the women's non-profit Ziva Voices. ​  

Website: Onairella.com
Instagram: @onairwithella